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rambone* (13 posts) Click to check IP address of the poster
20-Dec-00, 05:53 PM (PDT)
"Paranoid"
After having my first escort last week, I can say I’ve learned something and gotten a bit paranoid as well. I knew she was good looking (from the photo’s), but when I saw her in person she was even better. Ended up being a really nice, warm, down to earth girl. I wasn't expecting that and it took me by surprise. After she left and I reflected a bit on the great hour session I had, I began to wonder. Holy shit; there really is no way to tell working girl from a regular girl. What percentage of women were escorts at one time?
Paranoid huh? I don't know why I have such an issue with a woman’s past, but I really don't want to end up with a woman, who was an escort. Sure, I did it once. Was horny,
needed sex and got desperate (3years will do that), but at the same time wanted to see if there was a difference between a real girlfriend, that you love, and a working girl. There is a difference for sure, no doubt (for me anyway). I don't regret getting the girl; she actually helped me learn a lot about myself. But damn it, how can you tell if the girl you are seeing now was a working girl at one time. I can just see the look on her face if I asked that question.

After browsing the ads on different boards I ran into an ad that looks like this girl I was seeing at work.
http://www.lovings.com/escort2.htm

I wish I had the picture of the face, cuz the body, hair and complexion is the same.

Paranoia will destroy ya....


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there is no way* (1 posts) Click to check IP address of the poster
20-Dec-00, 09:51 PM (PDT)
1. "RE: Paranoid"
Of course, others have their opinion, but in one college class I took, a few years ago, about half of the girls that were supporting themselves through college (as opposed to the ones whose husband or folks paid for tuition and housing).

I think that it is dangerous to assume that a call girl, escort or masseuse is intrinsically different than any other woman. And as you grow more experienced in the world you will see that there are many other women out there, that would qualify as a "working girl", if you go by definition.

Besides, you are hinting that working girls are less worthy of consideration, which probably would backfire on you eventually anyway. Why buy into a stereotype that they have about you? And you are a john, you are here.

My realtor told me a story, about a good looking lady in her office, who only dated rich guys.

Is that a working girl? Or is that a working girl whose entry level price is higher than what you can afford? She will leave if you don't buy her a new jag every two years, and first class trips to Hawaii. Yes, money comes into play.

I think you should marry your high school sweetheart if you want someone without a past.

At the end, every woman is a whore and every man a john, just ask a divorce lawyer. The difference is that some get it before marriage, and some afterwards.

Perhaps the way to see if a woman is a working girl is to see if she holds title jointly or as a single woman.

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rambone* (13 posts) Click to check IP address of the poster
20-Dec-00, 10:57 PM (PDT)
2. "RE: Paranoid"
That's an interesting perspective. I'll have to examine what you are saying.

My deal is basically, I'm 29 been and only really have had 2 girls (intercourse). #1 my ex-girl who I believe I loved very much. We were friends for 8 years before we dated, long story. The second was an escort last week. Soo.. I don't know. I don't know what the world is about.

I know what you mean by "working girl". I just don't know if I could accept any women who had slept with so many people, maybe it's because I see sex as something very intimate. I have several reasons for going with an escort. #1 3 years is long time. #2 I was at a breaking point #3 was curious if being with a women you love and making love was actually different then paying for sex (and for me it is). Not knocking it. I actually surprised myself, because I did have good time. The passion and the special something was missing, but it was fun in a new way.

I don't know if I'll do it again. I'd hate to think every guy is a john and every woman a whore, but maybe you're right.

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ag (41 posts) Click to send private message to ag Click to check IP address of the poster
20-Dec-00, 11:30 PM (PDT)
3. "RE: Paranoid"
First of all, why are you so concerned that you might get involved with someone who used to be a professional? Personally, I don't think it would bother me too much if a girl told me that she used to work in this business, as long as I was convinced that she had no interest in going back.

Which would you rather have, a girlfriend who's last sexual experience was with a guy that she loved deeply, who she probably thinks was a pretty good lover, and who, despite the fact she is no longer with him, she may still think of fondly and perhaps even miss? OR, a girl who's been with over a hundred guys, the vast majority of which she never cared about, never became aroused by, never actually climaxed with, and who never treated her with the love and kindness that you will?

As for how can you tell, I hate to say this, but you can't. However, I think you might be able to tell if it is even in the realm of possibility or not. Most girls get into the business because of serious need for money. What is her background? Was there a time in her life when her living expenses likely exceeded her ability to pay for them with a "normal" job? What are her spending habits like? Does her family ever help her financially, or does she send them money? What is her attitude about casual sex? About "adult entertainment" in general? How skilled is she in bed? I know, lots of generalizations here, but I think that when you have spent enough time with someone, you can usually get a general idea of not only who they are but how they got there. If you can't, then either you haven't gotten close enough to her yet or she really may have something to hide.

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