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Terri* (4 posts) 23-Dec-00, 05:03 PM (PDT) "Boyfriends and Strip clubs" Well... I have to say this is an interesting site! My roommates thought this might be a good place to ask my question. Ok, so I consider myself to be a pretty cool girlfriend. When my boyfriend goes to bachelor parties or strip clubs I don't mind. But, for some reason he feels it necessary to tell me EVERYTIME he goes. He even mentioned that he had to run to the atm to get more money! (Let me just add that I am very cute, but he does have clients that come into town and they all want to go up to the City. I guess some of those clubs up there are well known) Does he do this to make me jealous? He also loves to check out girls in front of me. I was told by a friend of his that he gets pissed when guys openly check me out or if I don't pay enough attention to him in public. Again, is he trying to make me jealous? I just think it's soo disrespectful to BLANTANTLY check out other people when you are with someone. Should I dump him and start fresh in the new year? Thanks for listening! Merry Christmas to you all!   Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs, Sithlord, 09:33 AM, 24-Dec-00, (1) RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs, GPenn, 10:53 AM, 24-Dec-00, (2) RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs, ag*, 00:49 AM, 26-Dec-00, (3) RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs, fishfry*, 09:23 AM, 26-Dec-00, (4) RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs, le man*, 11:03 AM, 26-Dec-00, (5) RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs, Terri*, 03:22 PM, 30-Dec-00, (6) RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs, White Wolf Mounts*, 10:58 PM, 31-Dec-00, (7) RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs, Sithlord, 01:44 PM, 02-Jan-01, (8) RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs, Terri*, 07:02 PM, 02-Jan-01, (9) RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs, bigdrawls, 04:17 PM, 03-Jan-01, (10)

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Sithlord (82 posts) 24-Dec-00, 09:33 AM (PDT) 1. "RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs" Just my 2 cents. Personally, when I have a girlfriend, my trips to strip clubs decrease. My last girlfriend hated the fact that I would go to strip clubs. I think that it is way DISRESPECTFUL for him to give you all the details. As for checking out other girls in front of you. That is NO CLASS. When I am with a lady, all my attention is devoted to her. If you want to dump him that is your choice. You do sound terrific and you deserve a man who should treat you that way. If you want you can e-mail me and we can chat furthur. Hope things work out for you. Personally, I think you can do better. Sounds like your boyfriend is insecure and has to compensate. good luck amd Happy Holidays.   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

GPenn (114 posts) 24-Dec-00, 10:53 AM (PDT) 2. "RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs" Does he know how it makes you feel? And if he is trying to make you jealous, he may not know it. Lots of people act from insecurity or disrespect without being aware of it. Or he may have completely different reasons for acting that way. Seems to me the dump decision should come *after* a sincere talk (not just hints or even fights engendered by the behaviors) about how you feel, and you see if he is willing to: 1. Hear your feelings. 2. Act on what he hears.   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

ag* (21 posts) 26-Dec-00, 00:49 AM (PDT) 3. "RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs" No offense, but your boyfriend sounds like a prick. I agree with the previous two posters that he has very little class and even less respect for you to be openly checking out other girls when he is with you, and to share with you all the gory details of his strip club visits. If you want to give him the benefit of the doubt and assume that he is merely stupid and insensitive and not actually a prick, tell him that his behavior bothers you and see what his reaction is. If he appears honestly surprised that he is hurting you and offers to apologize and change his ways, give him another chance. If he gets all defensive and accuses you of being too jealous and insecure, dump him and give me a call. =) -ag   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

fishfry* (110 posts) 26-Dec-00, 09:23 AM (PDT) 4. "RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs" Sounds like he's acting like a "naughty little boy" to either piss you off or confess. Either way, he doesn't sound like he has enough emotional maturity to handle a relationship with you along with his interest in strip clubs. Clients, yeah. It's all their fault, they're always dragging him to places he'd never ever go by himself. You believe that?   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

le man* (235 posts) 26-Dec-00, 11:03 AM (PDT) 5. "RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs" Dear Terri, I suspect that your post is a hoax, but I will respond anyway. You knew your boyfriend was an asshole from the gitgo. Isn't that why you chose him in the first place - you found his asshole behavior exciting. I mean, he wasn't a fag docent at MOMA, now was he? Now, you are complaining about it. Look, its obvious he's screwing other women. Its so obvious you mention it obliquely. When he first screwed you he was with somebody else, right? You got what you wanted. You'll replace him with a similar model. By the way, I bet you've begun screwing somebody new - just in case - like having a batter in the ondeck circle, right? And you wouldn't replace him with any of the slobbering goons on this board if we held a gun to your noggin, right? In fact, "supportive" men and other limpdicks make you sick, right? Respectfully, The old le man   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

Terri* (4 posts) 30-Dec-00, 03:22 PM (PDT) 6. "RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs" I want to thank the first 3 or 4 people for their advice. I have decided that next time he brings it up to let him know how I feel. I did talk to a girl friend(not girlfriend!) of his and she mentioned that he hasn't really had a serious girlfriend really(she has known him for 8 years!). I believe the nice guy(I don't know how to go back and forth on the posts so I can't put your "name" down)who stated that he just doesn't know better, pretty much hit the nail on the head. He IS one of those "nice guys" that everyone talks about. I think he might also be a little insecure too- as someone else stated. Thank you guys(Except for the last one!) so much for your help! I guess it was kind of obvious that I should talk to him instead of being pissed; but sometimes it takes someone who's impartial to give your brain a little jolt! To the last guy who posted, I think it was old man or something. I have dated the good-looking jerks before and my motto is " Fool me once, shame on you fool me twice...." That's why when I thought I found this "nice guy" and he started acting like the jerk I wanted to dump him asap. I may be cute, but I'm not stupid I am also sure the guys on this board are not as bad as you say. Look at the awesome advice I just received! Thank you all and Have A Happy New Year Terri   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

White Wolf Mounts* (6 posts) 31-Dec-00, 10:58 PM (PDT) 7. "RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs" Give the boy some room...obviously he is stuck on you. Flaunt it in front of him when you want more attention. He may wander, and become a legend in his own mind...but he is unable to do all that, or be what he is.....without you!   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

Sithlord (82 posts) 02-Jan-01, 01:44 PM (PDT) 8. "RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs" Goodluck Terri,hope it works out for you. hopefully your boyfriend will realize what an ASS he has been.   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

Terri* (4 posts) 02-Jan-01, 07:02 PM (PDT) 9. "RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs" Thanks! I appreciate the supportive comments This will be my last post as my roomates want me to "shut up about it already!" Talk amongst yourselves Thanks again Terri   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

bigdrawls (125 posts) 03-Jan-01, 04:17 PM (PDT) 10. "RE: Boyfriends and Strip clubs" My girlfriend hated it also, untill I took her with me. Now she wants to go as much as I do. Boy did I luck out.   Remove | Alert Edit | Reply | Reply With Quote | Top

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